Guys Are Wired That Way

People use the term "wired" as if a child or person is born with vices, or "guys are wired differently" than women.  That's true.  They are but wired is a poorly mis-used. Guys or the male species isn't really wired.  What the word means is taught/brought up.  It doesn't even mean born.  But if they are meaning born then they're wrong.  The male species is not born to cheat, kill, steal, lie or destroy.  These behaviors are learned behaviors.  Now little boys are taught not to cry or stop crying, you're not a little girl.  This is a wiring process.  When little girls cry, they're told mostly let me kiss it and make it better.  That's another wiring technique.  Little girls are taught beauty, play with dolls which is a nuturing manner.  Little boys are raised to run, play rough, play with guns, play with toy soldiers (which kill), they play base ball, foot ball, race cars and so on.  Nowhere in his up bringing or raising as a child is it taught or explained to him (a male child) to feel, nuture or use his feelings.  The only time he uses his heart is when he wants a new car, a new girlfriend which he don't fully understand and his own place.  His love of sports are really rough, guys tackling each other and such.  In the big sports, they tackle with such force that a lot of these guys get broken ribs, legs, neck injury, torn lligaments and more.  They get patched up and told to get back in the game.  I met this one guy in the past that I used in one of my film project that was with the Cardinals to be in my project.  In a tackle incident he injured his spine.  They fired him and gave him nothing.  He was no more good to them.  That was a really bad damaging injury that will keep anyone down for good.  He had to sue.  After years of back and forth with the courts he got $25,000 dollars.  Chump change.  His life was over as far as he figured.  True, $25,000 dollars will go quick.  I know because I made $30,000 that year and I went through it real quick.  Only becuae I stopped building houses.  Anyway my point being, this guy was wired to be tough.  And tough he was until he was fired.  He lived in fear after losing his favorite job and then he had on and off relationships/girlfriends and he had no clue to what makes a relationship works.  Especially when he was broken spirited.  His daily routine was get up in the morning, watch cartoons, workout at the gym and work on his hobby.  He had no ideas of what he wanted to be or do.  He only knew football.  In fact, my project was interviewing guys about their relationships with the females, what they wanted out of life and their idea on dating.  It was kind of sad to what they wanted out of life, how they interpreted dating and where they saw themselves financially in the future.  Boys are raised to get a good education then get a good job without really going deep into life and it's meaning.  The rest is learned from street smarts.  I watched the Dr. Phil show one day and it was about young people, alcohol and driving.  This one young guy stood out because he had this I don't care attitude or he could handle driving while drinking.  He had a few DUI's, totalled his car and continue drinking.  He just couldn't comprehend.  He was wired, wired.  The staff of Dr. Phil took this kid/young man to prison to learn some ways to correct himself.  To make a long story short, the guy said he wasn't scared of the prisoners, yeah when he wasn't in their face.  The whole process just went over his head.  He didn't get it.  He even said that he could stop if he wanted to.  The wiring in this guy was his mind was/is stuck in stupid.  He was or learned to be wild and free.  This was/is the way he's wired, not born.  A lot of people may find the word "stupid", offensive.  It's not.  Hell, I do stupid things.  Stupid is only a warning or sign that you must correct something that you have done foolishly.  You now need to check your make-up or mannerism.  This is where boys and men separate in thought.  The young guys won't correct their poor behavior.  Men correct the situation.