Why Men Cheat, correction: Why some guys cheat!
sexiness financially stable arrogance
First let me define the male that cheat. If you (the female) live in a separate living quarters and he (the male) in another resident and are boyfriend and girlfriend only, he is not cheating if he seeing another female and vise versa. If you do not have a ring on your finger and married to this guy then he's not cheating. This guy may have commitment issues but he's not cheating. Cheating is based on a married couple. Even a couple that's common law (staying together and/or have kids in the same household) and together. He or she is cheating if they are seeing someone else.
For those people that say, what's wrong with that guy if he's seeing another woman even though his wife is beautiful with a great body. What these people don't see is that the wife is either having hormonal problems or she's just not feeling it. So the guy seeks companionship from another female. This doesn't make it right but there's something else going on that the outside world doesn't see.
Now the three types above represent a few of the characteristics of a lot of guys. There's 3 different types of personalities that tend to think along a certain pattern towards women. Men don't cheat, guys do. Guys cheat because they are imature and it doesn't matter how old they are. Even the guys that are 80 years of age that's married can cheat. Men are mature and guys are like little boys that want to be men or they are mentally in a state of the mentality of an immature male. Their minds are not quite developed (or shut off that part of the mind so as to cheat) yet, regardless of being over 40 or 50. You have handsome guys, rugget guys, guys with great bodies, fat guys, skinny guys, old guys, ugly guys, guys with money and guys that's financially broke. Anyway, I'm going to speak of the three chararteristics above. Many are as follow: One has in his DNA of consciousness that his body will make women want him regardless of his bad habits. The middle male has a DNA attitude that his success will make women want him, regardless of his bad habbits or other vices he may have. The third male feels if he smiles (he makes women weak in the knees with a smile) and he over power these females with his lies as he smiles while looking into their eyes. He's just observing your weaknesses. There's going to be many levels with reasons for a guy to cheat but the main reason, "He Can" and that falls under power. All of us, men and women have the power of choice. There's no such thing as "I didn't have a choice". If you really believe that you don't have a choice, then why get up out of bed. Why fix yourself something to eat or go to your favorite restaurant to eat. And if you don't do that, then you are brain dead. Power is strange when you use it poorly. It's also used un-consciously. How we use that un-conscious choice is determine by our convictions (an inner script signature of our life) which is our subconscious being used but not consciously aware of what we are doing but we do it anyway. That's un-consciousness. Consciousness or conscious is when we are aware of what we are doing, saying, being or expressing. We know the difference between right and wrong but the immature (young men and women as young as 15 years of age up to 30's, even late 40's and 50's) tends to think/feel that they can get away with a lot of things, situations or circumstances. Why, because as a young adult, their brains are not yet fully developed. And those that are fully developed are just stupid. The ages over or past 40's are called idoits. Don't tell them that. They are very limited in their thinking process. They think they know enough. Guy that won't process mentally tend to become angry. That's why a lot of guys won't ask for directions. They don't think out the long term or better yet they won't process their thought process to figure out whatever the situation or circumstance may be, could be or would be. They haven't brain developed or experience life long enough to make a good judgement or decision. The older ones are idoits that are like an old dog that you can't teach. Even though the female tends to think towards a mature way of thinking, she only knows/feels that she'll get into it or experience something with the intent of a long term. She's not into quick fixes or light relationships.
Guys...
Young men or boys only see life as wanting to have fun. Even those older guys after 50. Some in denial. They are in the now so that's all that matters. As they get older, they see things as wanting to have or they are in this for the winning. They won't do what it takes to win it fairly or legally. Remember, they don't process like females or some matured men. They are active or sports driven. Not thinkers. That's why they have older or mature men as coaches or fathers to guide these young guys. Only thing is our teachers, coaches, father/parents don't quite know what lifes all about themselves. Not the deeper details of life. In a lot of cases, a father is as bad as the son with no idea what lifes all about especially when it comes to females. He (the father) know enough to tell his son, don't just be with one girl, try other girls, try and study hard, finish school with good grades, graudate and get a good job then persue the female. The son will only take part of what his father said and learn the rest from the streets. And when hard times set in, he's becomes a student of streets smart. I'll say more about street smarts later. Young guys, teachers and parents don't realize this (this for those young guys in school) distraction on guys while in school. Young guys that have experience sexual intercourse or that have masturbated at a young age have opened pandara's box. Once a young guy have experienced this, he cannot concentrate on his studies, his life without experiencing the urges of having to get sex or masturbate constanly. He will not be able to concentrate on a lot of things because of this. He'll lie, cheat and still to resolve this urge. Without going to far off the subject, this is why law officials, authorities or societies do not want their young to be exposed to sex. The female won't be affected by this if she has been sexually exposed to sex or experienced it. I'll talk later on why young guys can't control their sexual urges and it will make them rape.
Young guys and older men do have one thing in common. They want to have fun and excitiment in their lives. And in some cases at any cost. One will earn it and the other will steal it. Don't get me wrong, there are older guys (guys as old as 50 up to their dieing day) that will lie, cheat, steal and kill behind and for sex. Without a doubt, all of these actions are truly wrong and are a result of not knowing how to process their brain. One who or whom would do such bad action haven't an idea of how to figure out or have a plan to keep from experiencing bad results. They do not know how to get themselves out of or keep themselves from expericing bad results. They don't know why they have such poor thinking but will bully their way out. So they are stuck or backed against the wall which makes them lie, cheat, still or kill. They don't even know or given any thought to the fact that they were blessed with this miracle (having a brain) of a brain to fix anything, get out of anything, figure out without harming anyone, figure a remedy for just about any situation. All that would be a block or problem in his life would be easily figured out if he only listens to his parents, teachers, stay in school at an early age to developes his brain. If he would follow a path of reading/learning through mature teachers, books and professionals, he'd grow into a man. If there's no idea in his or her head, they seek the easy way out, which is trouble and they will eventually end up in over their heads or incarcerated.
Why men cheat
Men will cheat because they can. In that moment, there's no one there to tell them it's wrong. They know it's wrong but his hormones/testosterones won't let him see the ends result or feel guilt plus he thinks you can't catch him if you don't know. After all, he thinks he's sly, slick or that he can out smart you. This falls under the category men are from mars or that's how guys/men/males are wired. Being the girlfriend or wife, he thinks he's bestowed enough trust that you won't expect him or question him. He will cheat because he think he has good reason or a lot of excuses up his sleeves. Yes, a lot of guys are idiots. He likes to think that he has all the answers. He thinks: 1. because you're not giving it up when he wants it. 2. you nag too much. 3. you don't look like her or as good as this fine female he see's. 4. it just happened but it doesn't/didn't mean anything. 5. she understands him. 6. she listens to him. 7. the newness of meeting someone new. 8. the nieveness/innocent and/or the youthfulness of a female. 9. I was drunk, high or intoxicated. 10. it was a moment of passion. 11. it's just sex. (this is where a lot of guys mind just goes dead. 12. She cheated. He thinks that if his mind belongs to you, it's ok to use his dick anywhere else. He/she just doesn't get it, that when he/she has or have "sex" with another woman/female/person (be it a man or womam) as he/she puts it, he/she don't see the harm. He in this case doesn't stop and think. His hormones are peaked. His brain sense of morals is blinded by those hormones. A woman/female usually feels before thinking of hopping into bed with a stranger. Her feelings are in this relationship mind, body and soul. Even if she's not quite in love with you, she has invested enough time with you that it feels like her soul is at risk. If she cheats, it's most likely that the relationship is over, she wants revenge or she's just an impho(sexaholic). Guys, her feeling of the matter is that, if you took the time to make love to this other female, or have sex as you put it, you're giving your whole self to this female, you're giving your soul, your mind, your feeling, your everything that's wrapped up in your body as you have sex with that "bitch", this is how your partner feels. A feeling of betrayal. She will feel as if you've given away this precious gift/thing called love, feelings, soul, relationship. Even though you don't feels this way, your partner does. That's how she interpret it in her mind. And that's how she see's this other woman whose experiencing your soul that belongs to her/him (your partner in other words). He see's it entirely different. He see's it as just sex, but if it was the other way around, he see's it as betral. Dis-respect. You spitting in his face. Remeber the old saying, men are from mars (warriors) and women from venus. That's another story.
If a guy has an excuse for playing around, you'd better leave that relationship because it's just the first of many things to come that's wrong and toxic. He can't be true to you because he doesn't know how to. He's not even true to himself. He haven't the slightess idea of how it truly feels to be on that end of hurtness and how it feel having your heart cut in half or stabbed. He just don't get it because he just doesn't know thoses feelings. He's never learned the art of deep emotional feeling or loving or that you do things with feelings not reactions. Remember, he's a warrior. Warriors think on ways of fighting to fix things rather than reasoning to see where he's wrong and fix it. Reasoning are done through feeling, not reacting or fighting. If he's a young guy, say up to 28-33, he's still learning about life, lifes communicating, socializing or planning. Remember, guys want to have fun, not set up house, pay bills, stay home and cuddle. He's just getting to the stage of wanting bigger winnings and he wants to have everything. The girlfriend, the pad (house or apartment) a new car, money in the bank, a great job, a few good friends to hang with if not a lot of friends and he wants to party. He love to have a girlfriend or if no girlfriend to have lots of fun and let someone else pay his bills. If that doesn't scream out immature or someone that's not responsible then you don't have much going for yourself than this guy does. You both will experience ups and downs and a roller coaster ride and yes it will be a thrill to him but not you/women/females. But when it gets real tough, he will leave or dissapear. And don't get me wrong, young females have a story about herself, her fickleness or immaturity. I'll talk on that in another link. This is about guys and guys that cheat. Don't get mad at these guys. It's not their fault, as a lot of people would say. Not true. They are the way they are, because of their upbringing. A lot of these guys were raised in a very poor rules of becoming excellent young men. It has a lot to do with the parents, friends and the street rules. Mothers and fathers don't even know about the rules of life themselves. So they don't teach their offsprings about relationship/emotional feelings. Many of these parents are split, separated or divorced because of their not knowing this rule. The relationship/dating businesses are making money off of a lot of stupid people. These businesses are not telling you what's wrong. Besides, it would hurt their business. All that's taking place is people using people and moving on to the next just to do it wrong all over again. This could be fun for a lot of guys and fun for a few women. A lot of them will be getting a fabulous night out, dinner and a play, sex for the guys and attention for the females. But a headache for those who are relationship oriented because they have to go through those that just want to have fun and not commit. Guys are educating themselves on what a woman wants and using it just to get in and get out of a social relationship. They are learning that women want them to be more sensitive or at least sensitive to their needs. So a lot of guys add that to their game plan. They will play the part then once they are in and get what they want, they break out of the relationship and become assholes. A lot of guys will admit that they are dogs. They even believe it's an honor to have that title. Then there's the bad boy. He play by no ones rule or his own rules and that is attractive to a lot of women until they are in the relationship and see this guy as an idiot or ass hole. A lot of women think that they can tame this guy and end up with a bruised ego/heart. A lot of women figure guys to be idiots because these guys become brain dead to get some pussy. So they (the women) label these guys as an idiot. Women are good at labeling when something they don't have control over goes wrong. When a guy dresses well, grooms himself etc., taking as long as a woman to get ready, he's proud of himself. He prides himself and with that, he has rules you must play by. They are not all players but beware, a lot of them think that they are gods gift to women. You'd have to pay a severe price to be with this guy or get in good with him or get his attention. He has the confidence but by no means is he mature. Look, a lot of this game playing comes from street smarts and a lot of the blame can come from hollywood movies. Street smarts because these guys learn it from other guys they watch or see. These guys are not gay or into other guys for that reason but they admire what they think they see or understand in those guys playing the game. Having fun with different females, having a expensive car, money to throw around, traveling, getting high on drugs, having a lot of friends that do the same thing as he. Guys have a brain but use it in all the wrong ways. Looks/good looks is not forever, but dumbness is. You can't tell this to these guys that constantly looking in the mirror admiring their looks and they think that they are fine or god's gift to women. Even those guys with a pretty face and an out of shape body play this game. In fact some women (those with little self esteem) tell them that they are gorgeous and shower them with gifts. That being as stupid as it sounds, (men as gods gift to women) if though God himself said to these guys, let me make you (these guys) so great that women will bow down to worship them and give them whatever they want. Not even. It's great that a guy would take pride in keeping up a good look and stay in shape but why stop their. Why, because they just don't get it. They don't want to put any effort into grooming their personal manners. They prefer to follow the street smarts. Granted, it takes using one's head to prep oneself to look good but it takes even greater challenges of the mind to map out a plan of action to groom ones mannerism. One's spirit. One's signature to make oneself into a mature/intellegence sensetive, caring, articulate man/person. And a lot of young guys/men even a lot of young women just won't do that. It's too much work and out of the way of what they think they should be doing to exist in this world of social living. Maturity don't just happen. A lot of old/older people don't even learn these gifts of maturity. A young man/guy would rather live in a fantasy world and let the chips fall wherever they may drop. That's his (lots of young guys) subconscious thoughts on the matter of the way he or she at living and the consequences of his or hers action will always get them into trouble. Even her poor attitude is result of failure or ruined relationships.
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